Understanding And Overcoming Ego

Courtesy : Sri. Gopal Global Malayalee foundation

Understanding And Overcoming Ego

 

Identification with the ego and the external self creates a false identity and extremes of feeling inferior, or superior, depending on the circumstances and people. It brings with it the thought of I am, which is based on gender, religion, nationality, achievement or talent, creating an attachment to the self, which always compares and competes with others. This insecurity leads a person into forcing others to act and think in the same way as them. An egoistic person, rather than recognizing that everyone is unique with a unique personality and has a right to express his/her respective personality, sees difference in personalities as a threat to himself/herself.

 

Where there is such ego, onlyyes people (who have the same opinion as yours) are allowed to come close: anyone with a difference of opinion is rejected. With ego, the original uniqueness of the self is denied, unrecognized and buried deep in the layers of wrong identity. This is why, these days, there is such an identity crisis – humanity has lost its soul, or rather, sold its soul to external traditions and attractions.

 

With ego, then: is the idea of I know best and consequently the misunderstood duty and right to control and manipulate others, in their best interests (supposedly)! This results in the spoiling of the creativity and uniqueness of others.

Dependency

Being Dependent On The Look Of The Other

 

We have to trust that, being ourselves, we will be well-received and loved by the world. If we are here, why have we been incarnated on Earth? To satisfy the look of the other or to bring what is unique and exceptional in us? We all have two eyes, a nose and a mouth but no face is the same. We are all a being of conscious energy, a soul, but each one has a colour, an art, a creativity and something different to contribute. Let us trust in ourselves and use our talents to bring our difference.

 

You can be your best friend. Imagine that someone accompanies you in your life, values everything that you do and finds it to be great: what you do, what you say; you are the best; extraordinary; a shining being; a star. Now imagine that you have that person next to you day and night. How do you feel? On top form and you are fine. This happens in relationships. When someone loves you very much, they practically only think about you; they ring you, they send you text messages, maybe they write you letters or emails. You feel unique, special and loved. But this does not last forever and, nowadays, it lasts less and less. The difficulty is that if you depend on the look of the other to feel fine, sometimes you will be fine if the person looking at you does it well, but if not, you won’t be fine.

 

How do you look at yourself? This unconditional friend that loves you so much and that supports you is what you have inside. You can be your best friend. This gives you security and trust. If someone else likes you or doesn’t like you and criticizes you, you won’t collapse within because to be fine you do not depend on the look of the other.

“Helping Hands are Better than Praying Lips”

“Cleft Lips” – a burning issue of poor parents – MFG would love to extend our support.

“Helping Hands are Better than Praying Lips”

We may not be able to do Big things, but always try to do small things with Big heart, helpful to the humanity in whatever small way possible.

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Hi Gopalji, Sureshji, and Sumathyji

In the previous week I have interacted with you all; Thank you very much for the support and kind words.

MFG is doing a very laudable work in higlighting the plight of poor and deserving people, and is arranging sponsorships and support for them. Also MFG is conducting medical camps for poor people to provide guidence and affordable treatment.

Through these activites MFG has become a binding force amoung the members. Gopalji’s thought provoking mails add to the uniting force.

For the past few years I am pained to see the plight of kids, particularly of the nomads and poor people and wanted to make a difference to a few of them. I am particularly moved by congenital defects in kids. Cleft lip and Cleft Palette is a common congenital defect in kids throughout the world. In most cases, this is not a life threatening defect, but degrades life of the affected. I would like to bring to your attention the plight of such kids and if we can support free / very low cost surgeries for such kids.

Enough literature is available in the net about this defect, statistics about its prevalance, and the surgical remedy.

My son (1 year 4 months) is born with ‘Unilateral Cleft Lip and Cleft Palette’. We have already corrected this defect.

“Smile Pinky”, a documentary on ‘cleft lip and palette’ and the effect it had on the life of a 12 years old girl in Orisa, has won Oscar two year back.

These surgeries need skillful platstic surgens, very good hospital care,and parental support. Any significant surgical scar on the face affects the person concered. We can spread awareness amoung people about this condition, surgical remedies and the care needed, and provide facilities / suport for correction. With time, we can bring together a chain of plastic surgens and hospitals throughout india willing to help us in this cause. We can keep in touch with the people / families benefitted and can even ask them to contribute back, when they grow up and start earning, to help conduct more such surgeries in future.

Cost of such a surgery is about 12k – 15k depending on the hospital.

Since we are conducting medical camps for blind, we can support this cause also with minimal additional effort. But the help we provide will afford a dignified life to the affected kid and its family. Our impact is life long on the person concerned.

I am willing to sponsor one such surgeries per year.

May I have your thoughts on this area.

Regards
Anil Thomas

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