Unloading Your Pressure Baggage

On a spiritual level, pressure can be defined as an external force acting on us divided by our ability to bear the force or resist it. Thus, force and resistance capacity are two variants in the equation of pressure. Everyone has different resistance capacities.Two people with different resistance capacities will experience different amounts of pressure on being subjected to the same magnitude of force.  A feeling of pressure absorbs our freedom and gives us an experience of being ruled by an external entity. There are a lot of people who hold the belief that they can experience freedom only in the absence of an external force, which is almost impossible, since there is almost some force or the other exerted on the soul by ups and downs that takes place in the role that it plays through the physical body; which includes the physical body itself; profession; family; wealth, all types of relationships, etc. Even our own personality, thoughts, feelings, emotions etc. exert pressure on us at times.    


Apart from the resistance capacity, the other variant in the equation of pressure is not only force but our perception of what the magnitude of the force is. This depends primarily on the beliefs that we carry. Two people will perceive the same situation in their role (as explained above) as forces of different magnitudes. While we hold the belief that life events, people and their expectations from us, are the forces that are the causes of our pressure, we will be able to do little to change the habit of being pressurized. It is we who pressurize ourself and allow the outside to pressurize us. We can either go through our life journey while experiencing feelings of being emotionally imprisoned, confused, rushed and hurried, or we can do the same with the power of faith and determination, at the same time maintaining patience and maintaining our inner emotional stability. In some cases, some of us put pressure on ourselves, because we carry the belief that a bit of pressure is good in order to achieve what we want; it provides us with positive energy and motivates us. So this is an example of perceiving a force in our life, a force which does not exist. Such kind of pressure can deceive us and give us a feeling of being beneficial in the short term but it can have harmful effects on us in the long term. Some others might not experience this pressure because they do not carry this belief at all and don’t invite this force.


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Symptoms Of Stress

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When we feel stressed we experience certain physiological (related to the body) and psychological (related to the mind) symptoms, whose importance we may not fully understand. These are normal signs that we should re-check our priorities – our body, or our state of mind, is telling us that something in our lives needs to change. Listed here are some of the common signs:
1. Loneliness – We may feel isolated (lonely) from friends and family, or experience a lasting sense of being lonely in a crowd.
2. Insecurity – We may suddenly feel shy or exposed around people with whom we are usually filled with confidence. Or we may believe that we are always being judged or criticized.
3. Loss of concentration and memory – We may find it hard to recall recent conversations or promises. We may often feel confused, so that understanding and remembering information could also be very difficult.
4. Fatigue and sleeping difficulties – Although we may feel constantly tired, we could also find it impossible to get to sleep.
5. Tears and mood swings – One of the most common symptoms is that we cry easily. We may also experience mood swings – joyousness followed by sadness or vice versa

Stress Management – Some Practical techniques

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Stress – in this modern life When we feel stressed our difficulty tends to be reflected in certain physiological (physical) and psychological (mental) symptoms, whose importance we may not fully understand.

These are normal signs that we should re-check our priorities – our body, or our state of mind, is telling us that something in our lives needs to change.
Listed here are some of the common signs:
1. Restlessness – We could have difficulty sitting still for even short periods of time and we may play with our hands, play with our thumbs or play with the rings on our fingers. 2. Impatience And Short-temperedness – We could find ourselves becoming angry at any moment for simple reasons; or we may snap at people, too quick to assume that they are accusing us. 3. Obsessive Working – Overworking can be a stress symptom, although stress can also cause some people to work very little.4. Loss Of Appetite – Food doesn’t interest us anymore. Either we don’t eat, or we over-eat junk food, or whatever is in the cupboard or fridge.
5. Fear Of Silence – Silence may cause us discomfort, so that we “over-talk” when with other people or leave on the radio or television when alone. Sometimes we may not tolerate noise at all.
What is Stress ?
Stress is a state of Mind·   
Stress is a mind-body reaction. response to a situation· To flight from/fight the situation
Why Stress Happens?·         
When a situation/condition is not Acceptable to us·        
 When we want to do/get something but are unable·        
 When ego is hurt (feedback, comments, criticism…)·         
When we loose something which we feel as importantStress is mostly due to·         Fear (of Future)·         Worry (about Past)·         And not so much due to Present Moment·         

It is always due to the perception of MindDifferent people ‘feel’ different stress levels for the same situations
What Happens when Stressed?·       

  Psychology of Stress:
Emotional impact·         Anxiety·         Fear·         Depression·         Anger·         Sadness·         Physiology of Stress·         ¡Acidity·         Ulcers·         Heart ailments·         Blood Pressure·         Kidney problems·         Diabetes

Chain Reaction of Stress: The Negative SpiralSome Impacts of Sustained and Unmanaged Stress·      
   Brain·         Continues to operate in higher Beta state (15 to 26 cycles per second of electrical impulses (EEG))·         Continues to trigger the rest of the body mechanism and create stress·         Blood Pressure remains high·       

  High blood pressures can lead to Heart failure, paralysis (due to breakdown of blood vessels in brain)…·         Acidity, Ulcer and other digestive problems·         Diabetes
Kidney problems due to overload on removing toxins from the body·         


Reduces immunity and makes body susceptible to diseasesSome More Impacts·         Human body & mind are a highly complex and integrated system·         Each system impacts the other: either positively or negatively·         Stress and Mind induced effects on the body are far more harmful than the external pollution·         Internal Toxins are far more harmful than external chemical/industrial pollutionWhy Allopathic Medicines and Stimulants are not good for managing Stress?·        

 Allopathic medicines directly add chemical to the body and interfere with the internal chemical factoriesE.g. Taking Antacids for Acidity neutralizes the acid in the stomach. Then body thinks that the acid is not sufficient and starts producing more.E.g. Anti-depressants suppress the ability of brain cells to generate electric impulses·       

  People taking such drugs for prolonged time become dull·         Stimulants like Tobacco, Coffee, Tea, Coco etc. temporarily trigger higher activities·         Subsequently body craves for more & more stimulantsThen how to manage stress?·        

 Turn it into a Positive Spiral·     


    Break the negative cycle at each pointSome amount of Stress is Some amount of Stress is healthy – it triggers and energizes the systemManaging Stress·         Root Cause: Manage Mind·         Positive Thinking and Attitude·         Larger view of life·         MeditationBuild capability to face stressful situations and reduce the impact of stress at physiological level·         Yoga·         Pranayamam (breathing exercises)·       


  Healthy lifestyle and food habits·         Have multiple positive energy sources·         Hobbies, interestsLife is going to be full of stress; nobody can escape from it during this modern life. However, we need to learn the art of reducing the stress level and make our mind happy, happy and happy!


The role of Values in Life

0When one does not realize the worth of the assets present within one, one’s mind develops a tendency to live on future hopes. Hope is when your mind is lingering on future happiness in advance. Most of the time we are living on future hopes forgetting the present blessings. Most people have an unrealistic approach towards happiness. They invariably use the fatal conjunction “if” as a condition. “If I get a degree, I will be happy”, If I get married, I would be happy”, If only I had more wealth, how wonderful life would have been”, and this “if” goes on and on. Often they attain their goals only to discover new “ifs”. Or there arises next deadly conjunction “but”. They believe, “I now have a degree ‘but’ I have no job.” Having found employment, they discover a new ‘but’, or I have enough wealth ‘but’ I have no peace in the family. Thus, throughout our life we live on ‘if only’ and ‘but’.
Everybody believes they will acquire wealth and then retire and enjoy the wealth, but that never happens. Perhaps, it will be impossible to find one who amassed wealth actually sat and enjoyed wealth!
Contentment, however, does not mean that you have no aspirations in life. It does not mean that you do not set a goal or ideal in life. You could be content now and yet maintain the aspirations to grow in life. The desire when controlled becomes goals. Uncontrolled desires develop into avarice, greed or obsessions. To a man who has no legs, his happiness is in “having legs”. Ask a man who has two legs and he would say: “What is life? I am walking three kilometers a day. If only I had a bicycle, I will be very happy.”happy_11 (1) The man who owns a bicycle believes happiness lies in a scooter. Having acquired a scooter, he desires a car. After buying a car, he wishes he had a designer car. There is no end to the cravings of the mind. The principle of growth is when you convert your desire into an ambition, an aspiration. You could have a very high and lofty aspiration and yet remain content in the present. That is an art. It is a skill to be cultivated.
If you observe the trend of thought of such people, you will find they are constantly focusing on their rise at the cost of others, their happiness at the expense of others. Such a mind-set will keep your mind constantly agitated. Peace will always elude you.

Taming (Conquering) The Mind

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In ancient times, the mind was understood to be extremely difficult to control. It was said to be like the wind: you could never catch it, or hold it – it went where it wished and no human being could become its master. In other instances, it was said that the mind was like an elephant: extremely powerful but equally gentle and patient, able to do a lot of work for its master. However, when an elephant turns wild, its gentleness and patience completely disappear and it destroys and damages everything in its path. When the mind is under stress, it resembles a wild elephant; it has no control and cannot be controlled.

Taming the mind is regarded as a great art requiring time, attention, practice and, above all, a sincerity of heart where individuals truly want to change their way of thinking. To relax, to be positive, to be peaceful and kind all require a change in our thought patterns and this can only happen when we look deeply within. However hard they try, other people cannot change us; we must have personal realization and the desire to make changes through our own effort. Permanent and positive change cannot be imposed from outside; it is something that we choose.


Please learn the art of “changing” with the time; to be adjustable / flexible with any situation.

For example, if the management of our company (employer) changes, we have to adjust with the new management’s policies otherwise we will end up with living under tremendous stress / tension and probably (ayyo…) we will be thrown out !


Always be flexible in life to live a Happy Life!

Stress Management

There are some false beliefs about stress that we have acquired:

“Stress is natural and has a positive part to play in our present day lives”

Truth: There is no such thing as ‘positive stress’. By definition, stress is unnatural and unhealthy, and is therefore always a negative state.

Stress can be defined as a form of pain that comes to tell you there is something you need to change. Pain – any pain – is a messenger saying there is something you need to learn.

While some people rightly differentiate pain from suffering, where pain is physical and suffering is mental or emotional, but the term pain can be used for both.

If you put your hand in the fire, what do you experience? Pain. What do you learn? Not to do it again. You listened to the messenger, you learned and you changed. We can experience stress or pain at four levels – spiritual, mental, emotional and physical. When the messenger comes at the mental or emotional levels, with painful thoughts and negative feelings created by no one but ourselves, do we listen to the messenger? No we don’t, we shoot the messenger down. Why? Because we have been taught to believe that some stress is necessary and good. ‘They’ told us it is normal, and we believed ‘them’. And so we allow stress to develop within ourselves, not realizing we are creating our own slow death. One reason why the developed world’s medical services are having such a tough time is because more and more of us are taking less and less responsibility for our own mental and emotional well-being. No one told us that a single negative thought could have a devastating effect on our immune system.

There are some false beliefs about stress that we have acquired:

“Stress is natural and has a positive part to play in our present day lives”

Truth: The second reason why we feel that stress is normal and don’t learn and change is that we have grown to like a ‘dose’ of fear and a ‘quick shot (injection)’ of anger. Why? Because these emotions stimulate the production of certain addictive chemicals in our bodies. Many people cannot get through their day without their ‘adrenaline dose’. So we go looking for bad situations, for confrontational people, for reasons to become angry, and if we don’t get our dose then it feels like something is missing from our day.

To say that stress is normal, that a bit of stress is good, is a neat way of avoiding the inner work of self-responsibility and a sign of lazy thinking. We all learn to think lazily, it is largely an unfortunate consequence of our education (or lack of education) so most of us learn to believe that some stress is good. One thing is for sure, an increasing number of people are waking up to the reality that stress has no part in a fulfilling life and they are doing something about it at the level of their thoughts and feelings.
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Anti Stress Living Habits 9

Be Positive

Everyone wants to live a long and happy life, but not everyone is successful in this pursuit. In case you have been wondering what you have to do in order to be both healthy and happy, I would like to share with you some tips for living a long, healthy and meaningful life.

1. Don’t eat unless you are hungry

If you eat when you are not hungry you risk getting constipation and indigestion. Fermented and undigested food poisons the blood, weakening the organs and makes you susceptible to any of thousands of various acute and chronic diseases. To properly eliminate wastes, your digestive system should be rested by sufficient gaps between meals.

Try to find your natural rhythm and listen to what your body tells you. Overeating is also the cause of many illnesses. The yogis advise you to think of your stomach as having four parts, of which one part is still empty when you finish eating.

2. Sleep when you are tired

This means that you should go to bed when your body tells you, and not continue to lie around after you’ve woken up. As far as possible, conform to your natural rhythms. Sleeping during the day and staying awake at night when you are tired is said to be one of the causes of cancer.

3. Get out of bed before sunrise

//Sooryaya namah//

Each day has a rhythm – like a wave. If you get up too late, you miss the wave and spend the rest of the day struggling to keep up. If you get up early, the wave is behind you, and carries you through the day. Some hours of sleep before midnight are said to be twice as valuable as sleep after midnight. Once you are habituated, the dawn hours are the best for meditation and personal development.

4. Take a half-bath or shower before meditation, food and sleep

water purifies

Water has tremendous therapeutic value. By doing a half-bath (splashing cool water on all the limbs plus the face and neck) before meditation, eating and sleeping your body and mind become refreshed and relaxed. Yours activities will be performed at their optimum level, deriving maximum benefit. As far as possible, take a refreshing complete bath at least twice a day, certainly at least once a day. Water temperature should not exceed body temperature.

5. Practice meditation and yoga regularly

Regular meditation and yoga tune the body and mind so that they waste much less energy. This means your body and mind will last longer because the allotted amount of energy will carry you further. It is said by some that each person has a fixed number of breaths to their life. When you slow down the breathing during yogic practices, you extends the duration your life.

6. Eat raw food and yoghurt

natures own foods

Life depends upon on “Prana” or “Vital Energy”. Raw fresh food is full of life-giving, vital energy (zing!!) and this is more important than the nutrients in food. Enzymes enabling perfect digestion are present in raw fruits and veggies, but are lost during cooking. And raw food contains all of its fiber undiminished by cooking , which is so important for maintaining regularity in bowel movements, which should be as many as the number of meals you eat. Yoghurt is an easily digestible complete protein which contains bacteria that aids digestion. Milk products are also good for mental development.

7. Fast at regular intervals

Quantum level

During fasting, the body is not burdened with absorbing and metabolizing nutrition. As your digestive system rests, it shifts into healing and cleansing mode. Thus, during fasting, toxic dead and diseased cells are swept out – a sort of house-cleaning process, which is fundamental for achieving and maintaining good health. Fasting is the best and quickest means to cure most diseases.

Fasting also purifies the mind. When you are not distracted by food, your mind naturally turns inward, creating a good environment for contemplation and spiritual thoughts. At the same time, it overcomes guilty thinking, clearing your conscience and giving you a fresh start.

If you fast once a week or at least once every two weeks you will be able to get many benefits without weakening your body or disrupting your daily life. Care should be paid to eating, light, easily digestible and juicy food before and after fasting.

8. Engage yourself in physical labor or exercise


Regular exercise strengthens bones, muscles, organs and joints. Your lymphatic system is operated by motion. Inter-cellular fluid also depends on motion to enable it to channel nutrition and waste materials to-and-from cells. Without adequate exercise the body degenerates. As long as we have a body, it needs to be regularly worked and exercised, even bodies of the elderly. A certain amount of physical work is good for the mind also, releasing built up tensions, maintaining a harmonious link with body and environment, and giving a break to the overworked mind.

9. Drink enough water

Drink Pure Water

Natural-therapy does not speak of needing merely eight glasses daily. Rather it specifies that everyone needs at least three to four liters (12 to 16 glasses) daily. Sick people need four to five liters. Those with skin trouble need even more. But you should not drink too much at a time, except in the very early morning on an empty stomach. And you should drink water between meals, not while you eat.

There you have it, nine steps that will help you to live a long, healthy and happy life.